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Heart coherence occurs when our brain, heart, and emotions are aligned and our heart and brain are able to work efficiently together in energetic coordination. Said more simply, it\u2019s a state of physical and emotional connection with our heart that allows us to act accordingly to its messages. It\u2019s a state of synchronicity and balance between the combination among our body\u2019s major physiological control centers, including our cardiovascular, nervous, hormonal, and immune systems\u2026 <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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*\uff1aNicole Lepera, \u201cHow to be the love you seek,\u201d  2023, HarperCollins books<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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