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\u4ec0\u9ebc\u662f\u300c\u5275\u50b7(trauma)\u300d\uff1f<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dr. Norman Wright\u5b9a\u7fa9\u300c\u5275\u50b7\u300d\uff0c\u4e00\u8a00\u4ee5\u853d\u4e4b\uff0c\u662f\u5931\u53bb\u5b89\u5168\u611f(a separation from safety)\u3002<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Daniel P. Brown \u548cDavid S. Elliot \u5b9a\u7fa9\u4e86\u5b89\u5168\u7684\u4f9d\u9644\u95dc\u4fc2\u7684\u4e94\u500b\u689d\u4ef6\uff1a<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. A felt sense of safety. \u611f\u5230\u5b89\u5168\u3002<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Feeling seen and known. \u5f97\u5230\u5145\u5206\u7684\u95dc\u6ce8\u3002<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. A felt sense of comfort\/soothing and reassurance. \u611f\u5b89\u5fc3\u4e26\u88ab\u8a8d\u53ef\u3002<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Feeling valued and delighted in. \u611f\u5230\u88ab\u91cd\u8996\u800c\u4e14\u958b\u5fc3\u3002<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Feeling \u201ca sense of support for being and becoming one\u2018s unique best self\u201d \u5f97\u5230\u652f\u6301\uff0c\u53bb\u6d3b\u51fa\u6700\u597d\u6700\u7368\u7279\u7684\u81ea\u5df1\u3002<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Easier said than done. \u4f55\u6cc1\u7576\u5c40\u8005\u8ff7\u3002\u5982\u679c\u89ba\u5f97\u56f0\u96e3\uff0c\u90a3\u9ebc\u5c31\u5f97\u77e5\u9053\u5c0b\u6c42\u5354\u52a9\u624d\u597d\u3002<\/p>\n\n\n\n

*\uff1aMichelle May, \u300aThe Betrayal Bind\u300b\uff0c2023\uff0c Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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