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\u2018After you bumped a target and made a connection, your goal was to secure a second meeting. You did this by connecting with them over a shared interest\u2026By and large, people like to talk about themselves\u2026Connecting with someone on a subject they love and preparing them with questions and themselves\u2014so long as it\u2019s done naturally \u2014can leave a person feeling positive about the conversation. From there, you met with the target regularly and developed a relationship\u2026\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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1. What is happening?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Why(or how) is it happening?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. What is the impact of what\u2019s happening?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. So what? What do you think will happen based on your data?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. What are implications of what\u2019s happening?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. What opportunities exist?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u2018One of the tenets of CIA training for the field is the concept of \u201cgetting off the X.\u201d The X equals danger, and it can come in many forms. The X can be anything: a person, a car, a building, an environment\u2014literally any situation in which danger rears its ugly head and your gut tells you to run. It\u2019s about identifying danger and acting on it as quickly as possible\u2026\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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